A classic car catches the eye on the construction site
Dear Abby: I drive a classic car to work on a construction site every day. Since I started working there this summer, people often ask me to sell it. Most of the time I take it as a compliment and tell them it’s not for sale right now, but the same people often keep asking. It’s starting to get on my nerves. I’ve even seen people try to open the hood to see the engine while I’m in the distance. I understand that people asking about this are part of owning an old vehicle, but I don’t have any other car or mode of transportation, and I’m starting to worry. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
– On Edge in Georgia
Dear On Edge: Tell offenders (again) that your car is not for sale AND that you don’t want anyone to touch it. If this continues, tell your supervisor or boss that someone trying to get in “while you’re away” is worried about the safety of your vehicle. There could be legal liability if your car is damaged. However, if you’re still uncomfortable after this, change jobs.
Dear Abby: I’m cleaning my closet and decided to sell my wedding dress from 21 years ago. I love the dress; it’s nice. But it is a very large storage box. My 16 year old daughter made it clear to me that she would never get married. It was difficult for me to accept, because she is my only daughter. The thing is, she wants to try on my dress. I don’t want her to do it because she doesn’t agree with the sanctity of the wedding or the engagement of it, and I don’t want my wedding dress to be tried on by anyone. one who thinks so about marriage. It means more than dressing up, and I think it should only be worn by someone who respects it. Am I wrong? Does my daughter have the right to have hurt feelings about this?
– Not a dress up game
Dear Not: You are not wrong. But if you’re trying to impose your values ââon your teenage daughter, I seriously doubt it will work. I wish you had mentioned why your daughter is feeling the way she is. Did you ask him that question? Rather than arguing about whether she is allowed to wear YOUR wedding dress, a discussion of what she thinks she symbolizes for you – as well as what trying it on means to her – might be more productive.
PS Because you feel cramped for storage space, consider giving the dress to a bride-to-be whose traditional values ââmirror yours.
Dear Abby: I’m having trouble with feelings that I probably shouldn’t have about someone. She always walks around in her underwear when I come. I like it, of course, but I don’t know if it’s to tease me or if I should act on it. I would really appreciate your help.
– Confused in the East
Dear Confused: A positive message from the #MeToo movement has been that when there is a shadow of doubt a person should COMMUNICATE to avoid any unfortunate misunderstanding. In this case, it would be appropriate to ask this woman why she is walking around undressed when you are there, because you are not quite sure how to interpret the message she is sending. DO NOT ACT ON ANYTHING UNLESS HER RESPONSE IS WELCOME.
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